The True Spirit of Valentine’s Day
By Robert L. Thomas Jr.
If the famous “Virginia is for Lovers” slogan is true, then does that mean the month of February is for crushes?
I recall during my grade school days having a crush on a girl and not being able to tell her. However, when February came around, I knew that it would be easier to let her know by giving her a Valentine’s Day card. Now as an adult, I realize the only problem with that was how many other boys felt the same way and were giving the same girl a Valentine.
At first glance, Valentine’s Day is another way for commercialism to take over. But when you take a closer look at the true intention behind it, is passing out cards and candy the true meaning of Valentine’s Day? Are we lesser than because we haven’t been struck by cupid’s arrow?
In researching the origin of Valentine’s Day, I found that there were numerous St. Valentines. One was a Roman priest during the third century who was said to have defied Emperor Claudius II by performing marriages that were outlawed. He was put to death after his actions were brought forward.
The second was Bishop Valentine of Terni, Italy, who was imprisoned and tortured for also defying Claudius II and performing marriage ceremonies for soldiers. Both of those men were executed on Feb. 14 of different years.
Another St. Valentine sent letters after falling in love with a young girl who often visited him. Before his death, he is alleged to have written her a letter signed from “your Valentine.”
Little is known about the actual origin of St. Valentine, and some even speculate it is the same person with different variations of the story.
We acknowledge Feb. 14 to honor St. Valentine as lovers festival day, which has been in effect since the 14th century.
I would like to believe this is the time to remind those you love that you care. It’s an opportunity to spoil your significant other, send a card to a beloved family member or friend and make those close in your life remember you care.
Merriam-Webster defines love as “a quality or feeling of strong or constant affection for and dedication to another.” Let us not forget to show that love through action, which can be done in a multitude of avenues.
The true meaning behind Valentine’s Day isn’t the obligation to buy things; it’s the chance to put your love into words and kind gestures and remind those in your life how much they mean to you. Kind words mean a lot, and you never know how they may change someone’s day.
Everyone feels pressure around Valentine’s Day, whether they do something that will please their partner or whether they even have one to celebrate with. Whatever your circumstance may be, we have to remember we are not alone, we are loved and we are cared for. So, don’t be afraid to do small things to demonstrate that.
It’s said that love is a gift, and we are gifted by giving it.